Spring Clean Your Mind!

The month of April is like a breath of fresh air; a month where we rise up and clean our surroundings – especially our homes. Perhaps you plan to finally declutter your loft, cut the grass in the garden that was abandoned during the winter, or sort though the box of junk that sits in the corner of your room. One thing that we can say for sure about this season of cleaning is that when it’s over, we are left feeling refreshed and renewed, ready to start the second quarter of the year.

This can all be linked back to you. In other words, the season of Spring Cleaning can be your chance to clean your home and also clear your mind of – self-imposed limitations, and unwanted seeds of doubt. Clear it of apprehension and hesitation towards your goals. There are so many ways in which you can clear your mind and bring yourself closer to who you really are and where you want to be in life mentally, physically, and financially.

You can clear your mind by locating your problem areas and doing your best to fix them. Write a list of things you like about yourself, and then write a list of things you don’t like as much, or the things that require improvement. Then, underneath this list, go through each item and write down how you can fix the problem.

For example, if you don’t like the fact that you tend to run late for work, you can fix the problem by organising your morning the night before in order to leave the house earlier. If you don’t like the dynamics between you and your colleagues, organise a get together on Friday evening to learn more about them and iron out misunderstandings. You will find that as you write this list, the solutions become obvious and achievable.

Writing problems down for yourself to see puts them in a different light, so you can see them from a different perspective. This enables you to find solutions where you couldn’t before. As a result, you will find a clarity of mind in the areas where your problems used to reside.

Spring Cleaning can represent new beginnings, and new beginnings can start new ideas. You can clear your mind by grasping new ideas to push out old ones that may have been blocking creative thought processes. If you want to get a hold of these new ideas, spend more time outside. Our culture makes staying indoors where it’s warm and cosy very attractive, and we miss out on creative opportunities because of this.

If you want to clear your mind, make it a point of action to leave your house everyday – not just to go to work. Instead, leave your house for the purpose of being at one with nature and discovering new things about yourself as you walk around in your area. You can also find inspiration from your external surroundings; what more from natural environments themselves! As you breathe in the fresh air during the reception of these creative thoughts, you will feel a renewal happening inside of you.

Self-evaluation is another way to Spring clean your mind, as you cannot improve if you don’t know what you need to improve on. By keeping track of where you have been and bearing in mind where you want to go, you will see an acceleration in your journey from cloudy mind to clear, and from let-downs to success.

The best way to evaluate yourself is by keeping a journal and writing in it during both troubling and exciting times. Write about what you have done, and the things you are proud of achieving. You can also write about the areas that you struggle in. Writing in your journal consistently will lay before you your patterns of behaviour, and possibly what you have done to affect your outcomes. As a result, an awareness of what you need to change and what you need to continue to do will arise.

Implementing these tips to your lifestyle this Spring will change your outlook on life, and your lines of action. Your clear mind will then begin to reflect your clean surroundings.

Have a lovely Spring.

Coach Lyds


Life Goals

I’m sure you’ve all noticed the leaves falling now it’s the start of autumn. As the seasons change, it’s important to take time out of our busy schedules and reflect about where we are right now. Compared to this time last year, what has changed in your life? Look back over the last 10 months, and ask yourself: are you where you want to be?
If the answer happens to be a no, then my question for you is: how are you going to use the two months you have left to your benefit? How are you going to make sure you end 2015 well? There are people who tell me about their dissatisfaction with their progress. As you all know, I’m direct and straight to the point. I ask them, have they found a coach or mentor?  Or have they booked a place on a course? Have they invested in themselves in some way at all?
And the surprising thing is that they haven’t.These are the same people who spend money shopping on new clothes, new shoes, new accessories. Now look, I love a new pair of shoes as much as the next person. It’s great, you look hot, you feel good… but after a while the good feelings wear off. It’s a temporary fix. And as the months go by you find yourself stuck in the same place.

I have clients who say they wish they had met me a year ago, because within their year progress was not made. A year unfulfilled. Please don’t let your year be wasted.

I’ve always said I want to be around the people who invest in themselves. That’s because those are the people who are going to go the furthest in life.

Talking about all this, a good friend once asked me, ‘Would one meal a week sustain you?’ Let me put that question back to you. If you only ate one meal a week, would that sustain you? if you had only one meditation session, said one positive affirmation, or one prayer a week… can that state of inner malnutrition sustain you?

Of course, it can’t.

But look — at the end of the day, we can talk about it all we like. Talk is cheap. You know that I’m all about action.

You may have seen on my Facebook, Twitter or Instagram that I just spent a weekend in a course with none other than Les Brown, one of my biggest role models.
Let me tell you, as soon as I found out about the event, I booked my seat in that room straight away. That’s because I knew I was investing in myself. I knew that I would not only meet my role model, but also meet a whole host of other driven, focussed people who are going on incredible journeys.That’s why, as the seasons change, I’m delivering The Feel Good Factor on November 11th. This is meditation and on-the-spot coaching, but it’s also a chance to take stock and make the most of your year and not let it slip by, another year wasted. Now is the time to take action.

Do you believe The Feel Good Factor is what you need but you haven’t booked a ticket yet? I have to ask you: what’s the delay? Why leave it to the last minute?

It makes me ask the question: what other parts of your life are you leaving to the last minute?

To fill you in on The Feel Good Factor, it’s an evening session where we take time out of our hectic lives to ramp up our inner wellbeing and energy with some of the deepest meditation you will ever experience.And when your energy levels are topped up, I will be answering all your hardest and most pressing questions about your challenges in a session of on-the-spot coaching. This is an exclusive chance to get some life-changing answers directly from me and make a change in 2015.
My last point before I let you go is a reminder. It’s something I’ve been contemplating a lot as the year closes. Just as we reflect on the last ten months, it’s also important to acknowledge that no one knows what’s around the corner.  We all only have one journey. Let’s make the most of it.

Starting Over

September is around the corner and I want to tell you that it’s not too late to turn 2015 into your best year. Some people entered this year knowing what they want, whilst others conceal their desires beneath a surface of anxiety and fear; with an intense lack of self belief holding them back.

I am here to inspire, motivate and tell you it’s never too late to draw a line in the sand and leave the past behind. Before change can occur, it is important to understand what you want and how to create it. Are you ready to face the doubt and insecurity staring you in the eyes?

Before moving you forward let’s look into what ‘starting over’ actually means. It’s finding the courage to look over a set of circumstances with fresh eyes, seeking the support to help warm you from the cold.
What prevents so many from starting over, is a small yet affirmative voice that whispers in your ear  ‘don’t be silly, you can’t do it, it’s too late for you, do you really think you’re clever enough? what will others say?’ There will be so many questions of opposition coming at you from yourself and those around you. You see, up until this point everyone in your life has become used to you being the person they know you to be.

How do your family, friends and colleagues perceive you? Are you the people pleaser, craving to be loved by all yet hardly giving yourself time to love yourself? Or are have you been on the same train of predictability for so long you find yourself wondering: ‘why rock the boat?’

Do you ever hear a different voice that wants to stand up for you? The voice that is willing to fight against the negatives. It continuously reminds you of those hidden passions within your heartbeat, you reminisce over a dream, the voice leads you towards that notebook of ideas you wrote all those years ago.
Whatever distraction life brings, do you find there is yearning pulling you to listen to that courageous voice within? the one telling you to’ just go for it’  That tug of war between the negative and the positive.
I will guide and equip you to make a difference to your life. Go to the mirror, now and ask ‘How much to do I want to change?’  ‘How much do I want my life to be different’

New paths are about measuring how much you want to do something, it’s important to separate fantasy from reality. If you constantly hear that still sweet voice directing you towards your dream, vision or plans. If you hear that still voice as you travel to work, whilst watching TV and in conversations, I believe you have the desire to start over, recognise the signs as vital indicators which are telling you it’s time.

I want you to ask you some more investigative questions.

What lead you to where you are now, the job you’re doing. Did you find it or did you fall into it?
Does your relationship bring you happiness or are you waiting for extra commitment?
Are you healthy enough or do you keep saying next month I’m going to eat those green?

There is no time like the present to start over, below are some suggestions.
A. Assign an ambassador into your life, a person who will coach, mentor, listen and move from comfort to discomfort, take time to find someone to sew positive seeds into your life.

B. Research the areas of your life that need change. Ask pertinent questions of yourself, be honest, don’t fool yourself. You can lie to others but you have to live with the decisions you make.

C. Get on with it, no moan and groan society; you can write the perfect strategy, in reality we don’t know what tomorrow will bring, remember if we’re given a blessing of a new day, we can control  our state of mind, our mentality is our reality.

D. Remember change is all about perspective, determination, unwavering faith;  be surrounded by the right people, new faces. Do something new… step out of the zone.

E. Be willing to be introspective, take some risks, get inspired, if you look hard enough you will find those people who have transitioned. Get brave and communicate, discover how others did it, people love sharing their success stories.

You owe it to yourself to uncover who you are and what your purpose is. Let go of some of the old and invite in some of the new.

I hope this inspires your new beginning of what you need to ‘Start Over’ in September 2015.

The Carers Voice

Listen out for the Carers Voice

Caring  requires thought, organisation, emotion intelligence and resilience. If caring is not your profession and you have not received formal training it can be overwhelming.

I am speaking from a place of experience, over two years ago I made a decision to care for someone I truly love, this person needed me, they took care of me all my life. So when posed with the question of ‘Will you look after me’? my automatic response was ‘Yes’.

I will never regret my decision to become a Carer, it was an honour, privilege and it taught me so much about my own temperament, the power of love, patience and my lack of it at times: isolation, organisation, health, fitness, food and most of all how to communicate from a dark and light place of being.

Each person’s experience of caring is different, for me becoming a carer overnight, seemed fine, I managed to multi-task and run my own coaching business, organise and attend weekly hospital and doctors appointments, household duties,  monitor medicinal side effects and benefits, cook, clean, remain upbeat, positive and energetic. Being that pillar of strength was rewarding, I discovered my capabilities, yet misinterpreted the signs my body was shouting out, ‘You need sleep’, ‘Get support and extra hands’ ‘Get some quiet time or someone to talk to’

I did confide to my incredible network of friends and family who were awesome, however I  also needed to speak to a professional who could be objective.

Caring can be a rollercoaster of highs and lows, I could feel incredibly low and cry a lot. I would feel guilty for feeling tired or irritable, there were moments I needed a break, then I would feel awful about wanting time out.  There were many people giving their advice, yet I didn’t feel my voice was being heard.  People would say ‘It will make you stronger’ ‘God will bless you in Jesus’s name’ ‘It must be hard for you’ ‘I just don’t how you do it, you must be superwoman’

So one day I broke down, told the family doctor ‘I am tired and I am not coping’ and burst into tears.  My doctor replied ‘I did wonder when this time would come’ part of me said ‘Phew!, I am not an awful person’ and yet another thought was ‘Why didn’t you help me sooner doc?’.

This is when I began to seek and receive the type of professional support I needed, I had carers come and support us for 45 minutes, per day, Monday to Friday, monthly 1-1 counselling sessions, organised a weekend away and also a 1 week break after being on the go for more than twelve months.

Although at times I unashamedly would mutter frustrations because I felt unsupported, it’s not a matter of complaining, it’s all part of the journey.

I have put together some top tips to help along the way:

  • Seek support where possible, round up friends, family and outside support
  • Join a support group
  • Speak to a professional counsellor
  • Meditate and Pray
  • Eat healthy
  • Get a good night’s sleep
  • Watch comedies, laugh as much as possible
  • Take a day off  – you are not selfish if you do this
  • Keep a journal, write down all of your emotions
  • Speak up as soon as the going gets tough
  • Appreciate each day and look for the positives
  • Apply love and patience
  • Accept the dark and overwhelming moments
  • Exercise, release the tension
  • Discuss feelings openly and don’t worry about how you sound

Even if you were able to do some of these, it would support you the carer and the person being cared for. Becoming a carer changed me from the inside out, along the journey, I met some incredibly inspiring people, made some new friends, grew in hope and compassion, gained knowledge about food and medicine and finally I was able to give back in kindness and service to the person I loved most in my life.

I hope this helps…


Coach Lyds

You are more than enough!

We live in a culture which operates and dictates at an incredibly fast pace, on a daily basis we receive media satellite messages showing us who is beautiful, how to become beautiful, weight loss top tips, fashion secrets, how to overcome being single, achievements by 30, who is sleeping with who, the list is endless.

I would not be surprised if your phone notifies you to a message on twitter, facebook, instagram, or possibly email alert from me. I am not saying that it’s wrong to follow social media, it’s a powerful way to receive information globally and get inspired.

My question is; do we make enough time to sit back, relax and reflect, whether we are living according to our purpose or following the eternal messages that influence our decision making and thoughts.

As a Coach and Theta Healing Practitioner, I support people in finding solutions to all areas of their lives, showing them they are more capable and can move themselves forward to overcome challenges and limiting beliefs. One of the main topics discussed in my coaching clinics are on the topic of ‘being more than’. Questions are raised such as: ‘Is there I could be doing?’ ‘Should I climb further up the ladder of stardom and success?’ ‘I want to be more, learn more, have more!’. Beneath all these statements lies the question, ‘Am I good enough’

Where do these beliefs stem from? In our core years of growing up, throughout our home, school and social life we hear statements saying ‘You could do better’ ‘Well done, next time aim higher’ or ‘That’s simply not good enough’. These opinions which usually come from authority figures are not questioned, so they form the beginning our thought programming.

As we move forward to towards happiness in our relationships, careers and health, it’s important to spend quality time with ourselves to access the unconscious mind, it’s the gateway to finding out what beliefs we are living by and who’s drum we are marching to. I have discovered through personal experiences, unless I took the time to nurture my thoughts and behaviour, I would not have wellbeing in life.

An exercise to uncover your thoughts and beliefs, answer the following:

Write the first answer that comes to mind, even if the answer surprises you

  1. How much do you value yourself out of 100%?(0 the lowest – 100 the highest
  2. How often to you acknowledge your achievements?
  3. How often do you say yes when you want to say no?

The above are wisdom accessing questions, when answer these questions in honesty, you will access how empowering or limiting your beliefs are.

3 Top Tips to overcome limiting beliefs:

  1. Create quiet time, listen to your thoughts and make a note of them
  2. Against each negative thought, write a positive affirmation g.: Negative “My life is one big mistake” – Positive “I learnt from my past and I now make good decisions”
  3. Relax and unwind your mind with meditational prayer